As you read this you can be forgiven for asking what positive thinking has to do with death and the parting of a soulmate and you could be feeling so distraught right now that you may be wondering if you will ever be happy again?

I cannot answer that question because what happens from this moment on is entirely up to you. Well-meaning souls have told you that time is a great healer and have said they will be there for you, but where are they now?

Be kind to them if you can because they do not know what to do for the best. All your friends and those that love you think you are coping very well and have adapted to your new life and they are unsure of the next step.

If you are completely honest, you are probably a little unsure yourself right now and that’s perfectly understandable, but you do have choices. You can remain sad and lonely – and those that have passed or still love you would not want that – or you could choose to embrace life and see what the world has to offer.

This is where positive thinking is needed because you cannot move on until you make the decision that from this point on things are just going to be better. You need to acknowledge that life has changed but with it comes new experiences – and when you feel able – you are going to don that metaphoric parachute and take that first skydive and just for fun – you are going to do it all over again.

It starts with the decision to change your thoughts. You are not being disloyal to those that have passed when you do this - there will always be a place in your heart for them – you just need to move on.

So you must imagine a brighter future. Map out in your head the things you want to do, the people you want to meet. Everyone creates their own reality and in your head nothing is off limits. This is your life we are talking about and right now the time for mourning is over.

If it helps you can write down the things you want to do, use as much detail as you want. You may even want to add a timeline of events or anything else that works, but make sure you use plenty of common sense to reinforce the reality – after all it is your future we are talking about here.

Now you need the next vital step in the process of powerful positive thinking – and that is action. Carry that image of your new life and then do something to help the great Amazon of the Universe make it possible.

Book that holiday, join that club, take up that night school lesson, learn a new skill – you have the power to do anything you want and when you start to take action then you will feel more like your old self again and quickly realise a new independence and strength you thought you never had.

It was really there all the time and it could only happen when you were ready to change your mind-set and explore new possibilities. There might be a couple of disappointments or setbacks but learn from the experience and move on.

There is the whole new world, new friends, new experiences, new challenges and new opportunities – just waiting for you to take them by the scruff of the neck. While this is happening, if you believe in an afterlife, then be sure that your loved ones will be looking down and approving.

This is what positive thinking has to do with death and bereavement and it doesn’t want to you to live in sadness anymore – so what are you going to do about it.